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Taking care of myself is OVERRATED

I have been doing it for the past year. Taking it easy, going with the flow and just enjoying life. I must say that overall it has provided an awesome experience for me in regaining the “live for the moment” feeling. It’s also helped me lose a bit of my somewhat restrictive and controlling Type A personality. However, I am ready to get back to just live life without restrictions. They’re getting in my way 😉

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Starting last March, I was given many directives..

Rest and relax until you know more.

Let your body heal and see if the numbness goes away.

Rest and get your body ready for surgeries.

Let your body and yourself heal from the surgeries.

You can get back to some activity but you need to listen to your body.

Go back to living your life.

So I am able but I am struggling with the balance.

I’ve adjusted over the past few months to a slow but active daytime. While the kids are at school, I try to fit in some activities that are good for me physically and therapeutically as well as some that are fun and social.

I’ve stuck a nice balance but these nighttime plans are bumming me out. I seem to crash at night which is prohibitive to seeing my working friends. Again, I guess my lesson here is patience. But sometimes I just wish I didn’t have to keep learning it.

Monday was just one example of my daily internal struggle.  I played tennis  for about an hour and a half. I had a blast it tired me out.  I came home to take a nap…and hydrate…and lay on the couch.
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I was invited to a friend’s house to watch the Bachelor that night. I don’t even watch the show but wanted to hang with my girlfriends. I felt like I shouldn’t go and that I should listen to my body. My body was telling me to stay on the couch with a big glass of water and an early bed time. I really wanted to ignore my body and feel normal!

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While I felt sad all day about having to stay in and rest, my husband came home and told me to go. He reminded me that I don’t have to stay all night…but I should go since I miss my friends. Considering that he is usually the cautious one, I knew that I should listen to him. He is wonderful and knows that I am working hard at taking care of myself…but also that my friends mean a lot. So off I went to watch the meaningful documentary  Bachelor, with a couple of my besties. The laughter, catching up and relaxing with them while watching junk television was just what I needed.

I need to practice patience and self-care but also need to find ways to nurture myself. Friends and an encouraging husband certainly help me do that!

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Moving forward…one swing at a time

I picked up a tennis racket this week- exactly one year to the day when I played last. Boy did it feel great!

I never played tennis as a child. I loved and played many team sports- soccer, basketball, track and softball- but never tried the sport of tennis. I sometimes wish that I would have picked up on more individual sports that could have transitioned into an adult hobby.

Loving my Patriots as a kid
Loving my Patriots as a kid

In 2014, I realized that many of my friends were playing tennis. It seemed to be a fun exercise, game and social activity for woman my age. So I signed up with a couple friends at Fore Court and (literally) threw myself on the court. Playing tennis was fun, yet social but mostly it cured something in me that I didn’t know was missing- my competitive spirit.

 

ForcourtGrowing up, I played many sports but was never the MVP. However, I was always competitive. My hustle and positive attitude resulted in a decent athlete who could hold her own due to hard work. I forgot that this athletic spirit was missing…and loved how tennis brought that back. I moved up from lessons and to a league with a very talented partner. My friendships with my doubles partner and other players grew as did my skill. Playing in a league make me want to play better so I quickly found myself playing a couple times a week in an effort to increase my skill.

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I signed up again to play in 2015. I fell in love with how tennis made me feel. Alive, frustrated, successful and strong.

Last March, when I suffered a stroke, I didn’t go back to tennis. My doctors wanted me to rest – my body and brain- until answers were found. Unfortunately, the answers were not ideal and resulted in a new diagnosis and a daunting treatment of brain surgeries. I went from playing twice a week to sitting on my couch….for a year.

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My tennis friends soon joined my support system and were part of #teamlisa as I underwent my brain surgeries. The ladies even worked together to create a welcome home banner for me. So thoughtful.

Welcome Home banner from my tennis friends
Welcome Home banner from my tennis friends

Another fun fact: I stopped playing in March but the season went through June. My partner continued to play with subs while I was sick. Upon my return from surgeries, I learned that my double team “won” the league. I even received a trophy! So remember you can truly do anything while going through brain surgeries 😉

March 2016…I have known that my friends have been playing and even had a few invitations to join the league/drill/even play socially. I didn’t bite until this week. I am not in shape, heavier than I have been in many years and worried that it would hurt my body. I think my anxiety also prevented me from coming out of my bubble.

But, this week, I returned to playing and stepped onto the Court this Monday. I was nicely welcomed back from my old tennis friends and the Fore Court staff. My partner is a sweet friend who is a better player than me, but is playing simply to enjoy the game and have fun. Playing hard and winning is a perk but not the main goal. This is a perfect match for me as I return after not playing for one full year.

I had such a blast playing again! I almost turned my car around as I started worrying about all the things that could go wrong…but kept driving. I even checked with my husband moments before playing one last time to make sure it was the right decision. I decided to be brave as I hoped the risk was worth the reward. It so was!!

I stepped on the court and while rusty, my competitive spirit with myself quickly returned. I immediately started plotting how I can play more and be better. I also wanted to explain to my pro about my past year, but it just didn’t seem necessary. I guess I can officially say that I’m BBAACCKK!